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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unicorn here.  Great family life growing up, mom stayed home until we were in MS, then worked PT.  They are still happily married 50 years now.

I am happily married for 20+ years, 2 kids (great kids, not perfect because we are all human), and my parents live nearby.  Sometimes we see them 3 times a week, and sometimes not at all for 3 months, depending on what is happening in our lives and theirs.

I am happy, healthy, and I always thought regular/normal.  My guess is people post when they are are unhappy or stressed or experiencing something they need help with. When things are just normal, we don't really talk about it because there is nothing to say.  Does that make sense?[/quote]

Why are you posting?  The take away for you should be understanding and empathy.  People around you are struggling and that struggling plays out with varying degrees of behavior that may be foreign to you.

Do you understand?  The take away for you should be….don’t hurt people because you don’t understand their behavior.  Is this a teachable moment for you?[/quote]

The first poster is responding to the question on what it’s like to grow up without trauma. Are you so hurt that you open this thread but can even read the answers?[/quote]

Exactly.  DP.  I also agree with another poster who says that the word of and concept of "trauma" are overplayed today.  Somehow we have reached a state where everyone is a Drama Queen or King.  There has to be angst and dismay or a life isn't being lived.

It is really very unhealthy, this whole thought that people need to wear their "trauma" so that they feel validated by the responses.  It is like we have an entire generation that has failed to mature and they are stuck in early emotional development.

Erikson says that achieving competency in each stage of emotional development motivates behaviors and actions to higher levels of competency.  Rather than focus on the perceived trauma and their own inadequacies people need to focus on how to master the perceived inadequacies to develop a better ego quality.  There needs to be a balance between understanding the world is unpredictable and knowing that you have the ability to manage what is inconsistent and to still achieve.  Many times the people focused on their "trauma" can't get the knack of the balance and it is sad.[/quote]

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