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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read through 4 pages of comments and am shocked only 1 other person feels this way--I wouldn't care. But I have brothers, not sisters, so perhaps there is something to a sister dynamic I (thankfully) am not subjected to as a part of life.

Can't you just explain to the sister with the little kids what you explained here? You know your sister and whether she'll get it or flip out...I guess on the flip side, is there a reason you will personally feel responsible for making sure her kids are watched so your sister has fun? That's not your responsibility. To me it sounds like perhaps there is a more complex dynamic between this particular sister and OP that has brought upon this question in the first place.

But in general, I'm truly shocked by all these responses, as it wouldn't even occur to me to be "hurt." But I'm not offended by every little thing that happens in the world around me...[/quote]

I think the dynamic can be different between brothers and sisters and sets of 3 siblings and can depend on how close the siblings are. I am close with all 3 of my sisters and I do think it would be hurtful if I invited only 2 of them on vacation with me. My concern would not be that the sister left out would “flip out” but that she would feel left out and hurt.

I have a group of 4 close girlfriends and I think it would play out similarly if we all planned a vacation without inviting just one person. I vacation with one or two of the friends at a time but if we all got together and said “let’s all go but not invite nancy” our 5th friend would (rightly, IMO) feel excluded. [/quote]

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