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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But are you ditching him? Of course you’re a MOM but he shouldn’t be at the bottom of your list. Boyfriends and girlfriends should be pretty high. I consider toddler years intense. High school shouldn’t be so intense. [/quote]

I’m not really ditching him or fully devoting myself
to him, at this point. I’m trying to keep a long view by focusing my precious kids first by far, and my open down time plus some dots of relationship maintenance (dates, Facetimes, etc) during my busiest time is for him. I do have spans of time when I am not actively Mom’ing, as many of you can relate. My HS kids are gone to school/sports a lot. But my mind and heart are always primarily occupied with my children. I won’t take well to college move out and empty nesting, I can already tell. I’m like “pre-sad” about it.

Thanks for comments and various points of view. Taking it day by day and trying to be a nice, thoughtful person is all I can do. If he asks directly for more time/focus on him, I will continue to stand my mom ground. When he disappears into one of his pouting sessions, he comes back because he misses me. 🤷‍♀️. Fine…

Post-marriage relationship with kids is very different than how I’d relate to a husband. I have to keep that in mind since as someone mentioned earlier, this man seems unlikely to be at my side when I get old or if/when I get cancer etc. Heck, he’s already old(er), himself! 
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