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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to break up with him because if you aren't yet, you'll never be "sure". Him asking you to move in instead of get married is a bad sign too.

You absolutely can know if you are ready for commitment in 6 months. You just aren't that interested in him, and that's okay.[/quote]

This is so wrong. You might know by 6 months, but that is the exception. It's more likely that at 6 months you can envision marrying that person because you're in the heady, romantic days of early love. It usually takes longer to know you're compatible for the long haul. Marriage isn't just about romantic love. People who think it is are not prepared to weather the inevitable ups, downs, and daily doldrums of life together.[/quote]
Being prepared to weather life together requires commitment, not knowledge of compatibility. In fact, you should probably be committed to commitment long before the person is in the picture. That's how you can evaluate and decide if that person is the one who will fit or not. The heady romantic days of early love are a great place to start a marriage.

So many people people are jaded from repeatedly putting the cart before the horse and still end up divorcing the person they thought they "knew so well".[/quote]

Totally agree with this. I didn’t know my husband long before marriage but I could see right away that he was committed to commitment. He takes his responsibilities seriously and always has. We have had our ups and downs, and I have been surprised about ways he has evolved as our lives progress, but working on being the best husband he can be is not a question for him. 
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