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[quote=tgreen][quote=Anonymous]the first few days I walked around mostly topless with the equivalent of an adult diaper on my rear end.  I complained about my episiotomy, all the blood I was passing, and constantly was feeling myself up to see if milk had arrived.  I was also grouchy.  Perhaps you can share this with your DH and ask him if he thinks his parents might not want to wait a week.[/quote]

Sounds like good advice to me. Then again, I'm pregnant with #1, so I have not had the experience yet.  From what my sister tells me, the first weeks are hard and she recommends that the parents take control of the situation to determine, who, what , where, when and how visitors are to be integrated.  Perhaps one way around it is to be VERY CLEAR of what the tasks are. Any visitor must make 2 meals a day & go shopping, and not make any demands to see you, your DH or the baby. Let them understand that you have no idea how you will be feeling and you may not be wanting to see anyone at all. Tell them that if they visit, they must be OK with you telling them to leave. It just goes with the territory of being around at this sensitive time.

Visitors role should be helpers. Period. The perk is that they get to help and be around at a special time.

If they have a sense of entitlement, then maybe they should not come at all. Then again, maybe they really DO want to help, in which case it is important to lay the ground rules so that they fulfill their own good intentions.[/quote]

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