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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Me too.  She is awful, but only with me.  I have said to her, no matter how awful and mean you are to me, no matter how much you continue to hurt my feelings, no matter how much I dislike your behavior, I will always love you.   That is my current go-to.

All I can say is try not to react/engage, keep calm and steady, and carry on.  I'm told they will come back to us in a few years.  I hope those doing the telling are correct [/quote]

you sound like a doormat? why would you tell her you love her as she abuses you?[/quote]

This isn’t being a doormat. This is parenting 101. They behave this way because they know we love them unconditionally and it’s a safe space to act out. They test the boundaries. This is why the response PP gives is spot-on.

And a therapist will tell you this too. So that will be a nickel.[/quote]

The great thing about therapists is they have no results.  You can't look at a therapist and say "yes! Their advice was the best advice I could have recieved and now our situation is greatly improved!" It's all literally crap.
Everyone is different and responds to the world differently.  One child who needs unconditional love but another needs structure and boundaries and a harsh wakeup call
Op is being a doormat and it's not working with this child.[/quote]

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