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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suppose I don’t know what it’s like to tell a child you’re leaving because you fell in love with someone else, but my straight and gay friends who were in mixed orientation marriages say that their kids took it really well. When the issue is mixed orientation, there is no betrayal of the straight spouse. It is completely different. And it is great for kids to see their parents not suffer through a marriage just because our heteronormative culture demands it.

Your friends saying their kids "took it really well" is not proof in any sense of the word.

A man leaving his wife for another man or woman leaving her husband for another woman is a betrayal of the spouse that was left behind.  You are using the "mixed orientation" term as a justification of the separation when just about any distinguishing factor (race, appearance) could be used in the same way.
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Oh god. No. You are so wrong about many things but that last sentence especially.

Let’s say you are a straight woman. What if from the moment you were born, everyone told you you had to marry a woman. You had to have sex, have a romantic life, cuddle, etc., with a woman. You would never get butterflies, enjoy sex, etc. Can you see how awful that would be, even if you could build a good friendship and partnership? There would be something seriously missing in your life.

And that’s why this is a different scenario for the kids than it would be for one parent to leave for another person of the same orientation (though I don’t think infidelity is acceptable in either scenario)

I know you won’t believe me about any of this because for some reason you seem to be highly upset about it. But if you do a little research on this you will learn a lot. :)

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You mean it’s a get out jail free card … but not for partner who was duped [/quote]

“Duped” only applies if the spouse knew they were gay from the get-go, and married the guy anyway in order to secure some kind of benefit. 
Not saying that’s impossible in this day and age but that is definitely not what this thread is about. [/quote]

So you’re saying it’s a choice as opposed to be born that way ?? 
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