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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her to screw herself.

And in 10 years you can compare which colleges/universities and degrees each of these kids are graduating from.

I guarantee helicopter mom will be surprised. [/quote]

Came here to say exactly this. Not only college, but life in general. Her kids are going to go off the rails. Just say thank you for your concern and move on. Not worth talking to her about it. [/quote]

While I think OP can rightly walk away and no one should push parenting styles on other families, this is just not true. Childhood obesity is a real issue. Screen time addiction is a real thing. Inability of kids to socialize and talk to one another because they're buried in an iPad is a real thing. Sister may be overboard but her concerns are valid. And I doubt the fact that OP lets her kids eat Burger King and has no limits on screen time is an indicator of them being more equipped for college. Please. [/quote]

No they aren’t valid.  There is no indication that OP’s kids are fat or screen-addicted.  [/quote]

They are absolutely valid. Sister has a right to be concerned about her own children's screen time and diet. No one cares what OP does with her own kids, and OP can tell her sister that. But the line of thinking that someone OP's laissez faire attitude about her kids' behavior is a beeline to collegiate success is nonsense. [/quote]

Letting your kids have fries or play on an ipad isn’t “laissez faire.” It’s … normal? Common? You can be an attentive parent AND go to Burger King occasionally![/quote]

OP has already said that her screen time oversight is lax. She sounds incredibly laissez faire. And TBH, letting kids shovel BK in the car is clearly a sign that they eat it to much. That said, no one can tell OP what to do with her kids - not even her sister. But you missed the point. The point, and this entire response, was to prior PPs comment stating that future college success of these cousins would clearly show OPs parenting style as superior, or alluding to that. Nonsense.  You cannot claim that OP's kids will have a better college trajectory based on this limited view of their parenting or kids' lives. That's total BS and makes zero sense. [/quote]

The issue is that sister thinks her parenting style *does* result in better outcomes.  That is equally false.  Neither parenting style is superior.  It is clear you think that eating BK in the car on vacation indicates they eat fast food a lot, but I find that bizarre.  The only time we eat fast food is on vacation, because it is vacation!  Especially long road trips or needing to grab a quick bite around an activity.  And there is nothing to indicate OP’s kids have a screen free for all....but SIL doesn’t seem to allow any screens ever, which is super weird.  How did her kids socialize during COVID?  Everyone I know let their kids play Minecraft with their friends over FaceTime since they couldn’t play in person.  It’s particularly odd to have a zero use rule now.

It also sounds like OP’s kids are better adjusted/more “normal” socially and that might well result in better outcomes.[/quote]

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