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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I am confused that you are not going to the pool with your kids on your own because you dont want to wear a bikini. But why not wear a modest swimsuit? Honestly, no one cares what the moms and dads at the community pool wear.

to me it seems there are a few different issues.

1) not going to pool at all. This seems to be the biggest as you are depriving yourself of some family time and its making you insecure (dh at pool w/o me chatting with women in bikinis). So why not start with modest swimsuits cover ups etc and just go to the pool.I am very fair and often wear swim shorts and a l/s swim shirt. Lands End sells swim dresses.Just get to the pool and remember that no one is really thinking about what you are wearing but you.

2) comfort with a bikini. Yes, I am sure it takes time, but again there's no reason why you ever have to wear a bikini. I wear one pieces or tankinis or swim shirts for sun protection. Never felt like I needed to wear a bikini

3) issue with husband noticing other women in bikinis. To me, this is a matter of degree. Is he just sort of checknig them out slyly (like ALL men do?) or is he ogling? Former, I'd say let it go, latter say something. But again, you not wearing a bikini is not causing him to stare or not stare and no one cares what you wear at the pool. [/quote]

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