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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s really tough.  If you haven’t lived it you don’t really understand.  There’s a fine line between enabling and caretaking.  Sometimes moving someone to a new situation is better for everyone, including the depressed individual.  That’s not abandoning per se but yes it may mean putting up some distance.  Sacrificing a large portion of your life in the care of someone else’s illness is not necessarily honoring them or the preciousness of life itself.  [/quote]

I think a lot of people writing on this thread have never lived this situation.  I’ve seen this scenario in my family three times.  Here were the outcomes:

- teenage son suicidal suffering BPD, parents got him treatment, support, researched treatments, locked away all sharp objects, never left him alone, etc.  It took a heavy toll on his parents but they never let up and he is now stable.  That took two years

- daughter in her late 50s living with parents due to depression and drug and alcohol addictions. Parents are elderly but won’t kick her out.  She is verbally and emotionally abusive to her elderly parents and they live in an hostile and toxic household in their years when they are supposed to be taken care of by their kids.  It’s very sad.

-daughter in her 30s moved in with mother.  Daughter had suicidal ideations, BPD, alcohol addiction, multiple eating disorders, self harm.  Living with her mother caused such a stressful environment that she couldn’t get better.  She started suffering from seizures and we held an intervention and her mother said if she didn’t go to in patient treatment she couldn’t live with her anymore because she couldn’t just watch her slowly kill herself.  That got her in to treatment and she is stable and living on her own

Just some real life scenarios that have taken a toll on many people.[/quote]

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