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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's interesting you come from a family who kept a distance from your parents, wouldn't be bothered to help, and you, being from same family, went off and did loner thing overseas barely to be seen again.  It sounds like you aren't much different than your relatives.  Maybe you left in part because your family wasn't great.[/quote]

OP here. My Mom's side of the family were never that close. They were friendly with each other and there were never any disagreements, but they all did their own thing. We all lived in the same small town but we would see each other only at family events once or twice a year. My cousins and I never played together when we were little. It was just the way it was. I liked my maternal grandparents but I was not very close to them.

I was much closer to my Dad's family. I adored my Dad's mother and I spent a lot of time with her when I was a child and a teenager. She died aged 83, the year before I moved abroad. My Dad's family is smaller than my mother's family and they are older.

I didn't leave because of family. I left because I always wanted to live abroad, and I put myself out there and took advantage of opportunities that I was given. [/quote]

Look, don't blame your family.  You knew they were stand offish.  Don't blame yourself either though.  You did the best you could living overseas.  You were a fine child from a family of people who march to the beat of their own drum.  Your father was probably happy for you and wanted you to live your best life.  How many years ago was this?  It's ok to give it closure.  [/quote]

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