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[quote=Anonymous]We earn far less than you, OP, and my husband and I have very different ideas about money. He will only do free or very inexpensive things: the Smithsonians, bike rides, free concerts at the Library of Congress, picnics in the park. It infuriated me because I love to travel and eat out. 
I started to break him down. I said, "It's important to me to spend money rather than be tense about how messy the house is" (he and the kids are slobs and I'm not saint). So I pay for the cleaning lady, who has become a friend. 
I love to travel and don't like to sweat transportation to and from the airport (pre-covid). So I pay for a Lyft to the airport. He will travel to see family or friends, but not to see places.
I say, "Let's go see your brother and his wife." I buy the tickets and he covers all other expenses--this is agreed upon before we go. 
Otherwise, I plan our travel--the FREEDOM to go where I want to go!--and if I want to eat out, I say, "I'm going out with my girlfriends."
Gradually he said, "I'd like to come" and so on special occasions I will book a restaurant for the two of us (I pay for the babysitter and the restaurant). 
It's weird but it works for us. 
There is a lot of negotiating. 
I do a lot of travel on my own and/or with girlfriends and all our children. He resents it, at times. 
It is NOT normal to be so frugal if you have the money--but there are a lot of people like our husbands, so maybe it's more normal than I think? 
Start with something small that bothers you--like cleaning the house or painting. I agree with those who said that maybe your husband likes to paint, so choose your first few "splurges" carefully. Then work your way up. 
As to skiing, which I love (he doesn't ski): ski school is very important to master skills and learn safety and to feel comfortable on the mountain (suppose they don't see you on the slopes?) Put your foot down on that and throw 'em into ski school. If it's very expensive, there are half-day schools. 
Good luck, OP! I've been there! Still doing that. [/quote]

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