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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a WOHM who comes home b4 my DH.  He comes home at 730 - after dinner and homework almost done.  It is a long day for me.[/quote]

I'd say so.  It's one thing to SAHM and have the bulk of the household duties.  [b]But working and keeping up with the children and chores is murderous[/b].  [/quote]

I would agree. How do you all do it. Thinking about going back to work and just the thought of all of it gives me terrible anxiety.[/quote]

[b]I work, handle pick-up from 2 schools, handle all homework, bath, dinner, and bed before DH waltzes in a 8 pm.  Sometimes he has been at the gym or Starbucks that day, and I just want to kill him because my life doesn't premit taking 5 minutes for myself.  It sucks.  I hate it.   [/quote][/b]

Oh, wow. This really sucks and doesn't seem fair. Why do you put up with this? I would have a serious sit down with my DH if this was my life. [/quote]

I thnk he counts on the fact that I miss my kids so much during the workday that I'll cover for him in the evenings.  We have a deal that he wakes with our younger child, then dresses and feeds him.  That hour in the morning is supposed to offset what I do in the afternoon and evening.  Except that he regularly chastises me for "sleeping in" while he accomplishes those two tasks.   The fact is that he would never see our younger child if he didn't pull morning duty.  My biggest problem isn't my husband -- it's my colleagues who see me running out the door every afternoon while they stay behind to get the job done.  I can't blame them.

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Are you and I the same person married to the same man?  I could have written this post.  He expects a frickin' medal for "taking the morning shift."  Yeah, if I wasn't busting my ass every night getting the kids to bed and actually had some time to myself, maybe I wouldn't need so much sleep. [/quote]

WOW are we all married to the same man? Same here! I give him a little more credit because our son still doesn't STTN, but my DH thinks he should get the purple heart for mornings. Should've married an early riser.[/quote]

I'm married to him, too. Except I do drop offs and pick ups, in addition to the grocery shopping, dinner, and baths. DH thinks that he can walk in at 8, get the kids out of bed, sit at the table with him while he eats, and then read a story to the kids. By the time the kids are asleep, it's 9 PM. DH is an early riser, but is so F-ing slow that half the time I'm getting DC breakfast, have their clothes ready, and pack their lunches. I'm so mad as I type this--ugh. DH basically washes dishes, takes out the trash, and cleans the kitty litter. He thinks he's a great dad because he takes the kids out for a few hours on the weekend so that I get some rest--but really he thinks that if I'm rested I'll want to have sex with him. And he wonders why I'm never in the mood? And yes, we've discussed this, but every time he gets so angry that I even raise the issue of fairness I've stopped bringing it up.[/quote]

Oh, yes, same here about having lunches packed and clothes picked out and breakfast stocked.  And I'd better check the weather forecast the night before and put out the right clothes because if I've put out a tshirt and it's 20 degrees, he still dresses the kid in the tshirt and I have to change him into something warmer before I drop him off.   [/quote]

Maybe my th inking is backwards, but I'm a FT working mom and my DH works longis hours (due to proposal work) and I handle 90% of the houe/kid duties, but I also CHOOSE to work.  He would be fine if I stayed at home because his job trumps mine and knows that I do the heavy lifting. I simply figure this is part of the deal with me working.[/quote]

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