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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Not a troll.  I took your advice and talked to my mother and sisters to say while I welcome and appreciate their help and company their comments about the baby's name are really mean and disrespectful. That we are not going to change the baby's name because we love it. If they make comments in front of either of us again they're going to be made to leave and we really don't want to have to do that.

One sister apologized, said she'd stop and that her husband said she was wrong too, and then told me not to get upset if she calls the baby Saralee, as in the cake. The other sister is offended I said we'd kick her out after everything she's done for us (and she has done a lot). My mother is angry and hurt that we would make her leave for any reason and wouldn't admit she's made comments every single time she's been over.  DH suggested I ask the first sister to talk to the others. I was reading here today how so many people moved to the US, far from their country and family and they do it all building their family.  Maybe I've been relying too much on family to help? [/quote]

OP, your family sound like they have poor boundaries, e.g., thinking they have any right to comment on your daughter's name, let alone urge you to change it (particularly given their taste in names).  Making fun of your daughter's name and then telling you "not to get upset" (newsflash: people don't get to tell others how to feel) is atrocious behavior.

So, yeah, you may be relying on them too much given how lousy their boundaries are.  FWIW, Sara Grace is a beautiful name.  I've always been partial to Sara with no h, though I do have a friend IRL named Sarah Grace and she's a terrific person.  Your mom and sisters may do a lot for you, but that doesn't give them the right to be mean about your daughter's name, either.[/quote]

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