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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After I had been dating my now-husband for a year, I decided to go to law school three hours a way.  We were long distance for three years, but got engaged during that time and married right after I graduated.  It wasn’t always easy, but we stuck with it because we were committed to each other.

I guess the question for OP is, are you actually committed to your girlfriend, or are you just marking time with her?[/quote]

OP here. Very serious. I want to marry her. She doesn’t think a wedding will happen until her contract is up. I guess I’m just most upset that she didn’t even really talk me about things before even saying she would accept it. She just told me she was taking it. I would never do that. I would discuss things with her before making a decision. I’m starting to feel like my feelings for her are much stronger than hers are for me. Here I am making plans for our future, and she is making plans for herself. [/quote]

NP. I will stray from the pack and say that I agree with you. It will be very difficult for your relationship to survive this job relocation, because that is not the kind of relationship you want, and your GF didn’t take any of that into account when she made her decision; it doesn’t sound like you were a factor in her thought process at all, and she decided for both of you that your relationship is “strong enough.” The fact that she didn’t discuss it with you prior to accepting the position (and its three years, not a short-term thing!), and it came out of left field speaks volumes.

It’s possible that this is an easy out for her and it’s also possible that you just have different priorities right now. Either way, it doesn’t bode well for your relationship.[/quote]

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