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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are married the debt will be a joint problem.
Sounds like she is trying to manage what’s best for your future.

Plenty of young ppl traveled extensively for career, and most don’t end up single either.[/quote]

+1 I traveled 90% of the time (46-47 weeks per year) for the first 6 years after grad school, which included the entirety of my dating and marriage to my husband. I have absolutely no debt, own our home and vehicles outright, and was able to take a job that still pays very well and has minimal travel and a straight 40hr work week. We are now having our first.

Here’s what I recommend:
1. Propose now
2. Move her life into your house before her contract begins. She’ll take some things with her, but it’s not a full relocation every time. This makes you home base for when she has a chance to visit between locations
3. You travel to her. Monthly at least. 
4. See how it’s going in 12 months. Most travel nurses stay in one place for 6 months to start, but may extend. 12 months will give you both a chance to see how the relationship holds up and may make her want to get married while she’s still traveling. 
5. Set a date. [/quote]

Don’t do this. I’m in the minority here but I think proposing will be a big mistake. She didn’t even consult you on this? Her motives and actions speak for themselves. She’s not interested in being with you. I would cut your losses and look for someone else who shares the same goals. She’s not it for you, OP.

I was in almost a year with my now husband when I was interested in a job that would require travel. I knew it was my decision to make, but definitely wanted to let him know and get his opinion on it. Her not asking you is a big sign. Maybe this is her way of telling you she doesn’t feel the same way. [/quote]

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