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[quote=Anonymous]I think the thing most worrying about immediate PP is that he's allegedly a 14 year old boy posting on DCUM late at night.  If I were a 14 year old boy there would be about eight thousand sites I'd favor before this one.  Seriously stretching credibility!!  You're 14 and chatting on DCUM?  Your not independent, you're either lying or seriously need to get a life (and some sleep).  GO TO BED

I think OP is quite right.  My little kids could make their lunches, do more things by themselves etc.  But I like the fact that they do not have to.  My sister's kids are "so mature and independent" that they bring her tea and toast in bed (she really likes to lie in), organize everything for themselves and get rewarded for every certificate and 'achievement' that makes her feel like a good parent.  My kids do the usual chores and I take their offers of help when they want to be part of something I'm doing (folding washing, watering the plants) but there's no pressure.  I delight in their success but I don't define me or them by it (or lack of it).  DH and I don't talk money in front of the kids and we're careful about 'sensitive topics' like family issues.  Why?  Because they are all under 6 and there is time enough for explaining the tricky things.  I believe that true confidence and security comes from knowing that your parents are a rock on whom you can rely and trust.  Knowing that they are putting your interests first and care enough to make things special is part of that.  My sister's kid are much more worldly, very driven (in every sense) and have the awards to prove their prowess.  But I reckon that an hour spent pressing flowers for Christmas cards, or curled up telling dumb jokes, or baking the week's biscuits together or just wandering through the neighbourhood making up stories about the people who live in each house is worth it's weight in accolades and independence.

I think OP's post was a good one.[/quote]

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