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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here -- It's a bit tricky because we a lot wealthier than her family (she's the first one to go to college, on a full scholarship) and I don't want to get her something over-the-top that would be nicer than what her parents get her. So the Tumi may have to wait.

Do 20 year olds still wear pearl earrings to work? I could do that -- but I wouldn't get them at Tiffany's.[/quote]

[b]I wouldn’t worry about giving her something too $$ because that is a perk of having a well-off boyfriend with well-off friends. And if everyone was afraid of one a “poor” persons parents, then that person would not get any good gifts.[/b]

I personally don’t like jewelry idea because it’s personal and you say you don’t know her well ; her parents (or boyfriend) may give her something more sentimental (even if it doesn’t cost as much); or she may just like wearing specific items, or may not wear jewelry.

I would go practical, especially since it seems like she may not have a lot of disposable income. Gift card to clothing store or mall - so she can buy clothes for interviews or her first job. The dilemma new grads have is they’ve been wearing torn jeans and sweats and now need a couple of weeks’ worth of business casual clothes before they get their first few checks. You could also give cash, but in my experience they use that to pay rent or Netflix bill — which is fine, but I like  gift cards over cash when I want it to seem like a more thoughtful gift. [/quote]

Agree- I really hate this attitude that someone from humble beginnings should be further penalized/given a lesser gift by those with higher means to “avoid offending anyone.” As a child from a poorer family who went to college on a full scholarship I would have been thrilled and extra appreciative to get a splurge/luxury type gift from my boyfriend’s parents and my parents certainly wouldn’t have felt resentful/given a thought to comparing gifts.[/quote]

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