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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - here's my schedule to avoid comments that I ignore my child:

M-Thurs - work 6-7,8-6,8-10 -- 13 hours.

Fri - I finish work at 5 to spend more time with baby. Login again for a couple of hours

Weekends - work 7-10 am and 7-10 pm both days. In between I spend time with baby.

That adds up to 65 hours but still spend a good chunk of time with baby, yes, not like a parent with a PT job, but still like most other parents work 45 hours per week. [/quote]

I worked 45 hours a week but my schedule was more like 9-4, 8-10 on weekdays and weekends off for family time. I WAH the first year of my babies’ life with a nanny and nursed them on my breaks. With their nap schedule they were awake with the nanny for ~3 hrs when not feeding, and the rest of the time with me or their dad. I could see them when they first crawled, first ate solids, first clapped... their first word was mama and often the first face when they woke up from a nap was mine for feeding.

I am not someone who thinks you need to be with your baby 24/7 to bond with them but it seems to me that if they don’t see you most of the day and you miss their milestones, it’s hard on both of you. I was lucky to have the flexibility, and even then I do feel like with my first my mind was a little more occupied with juggling than would have been ideal. I did not have the option of pausing and I knew if I could push through there would be a lot of benefits. By the time my second came I was senior enough to really flex my schedule and that has allowed me to be even more available. These early years fly by. When your child is 6 and off to school, you’ll wonder where the time went. It just goes by very fast so whatever you do make sure you’ll have no regrets.[/quote]

Yes I am afraid of that too. [/quote]

It’s your life and your happiness. Don’t be afraid to be selfish... you have a child, why not enjoy him? Cutting back your hours isn’t about giving up your career, just reallocating your priorities for the next five years to find more balance. If your husband wants fancier vacations he can work more.[/quote]

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