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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In what way is she not stable?  Is this just about moving and changing jobs? Is your step daughter changing schools all the time? If so why not just have her go to school based on your address and have her stay there even if the mom moves?

Or is she not stable in other ways?  [/quote]

She currently goes to a school in our neighborhood because like I said, her mom is constantly moving. We’re in Clarksburg and her mom moved to Manassas in October (and planning to move again as soon as she gets another job). There have been times when my stepdaughter missed school because her mom didn’t have gas money to get her there. My stepdaughter hates all the moving and actually wants to live with us full time and visit her mom on the weekends because with us she has her own room, a bed, and close to her friends. That’s why DH wants to pursue this.[/quote]

She has a room and bed with her mom. You can help by driving her to school if she goes to your home school vs. mom's.  You aren't going to get custody for that.  There is no abuse or neglect and you can transfer to mom's home school so transportation is not an issue.[/quote]

Way to put the needs of the child first.

"Larla, your mother can't be relied upon to provide transportation to school, so to make up for that, you need to change schools."[/quote]

Larla your father and stepmother refuse to pay enough child support for transportation, so now they want to gain full custody. [/quote]

Where is mom's responsibility to not get fired so she can afford to provide for her child?[/quote]

Seriously, this. Many posters are overlooking the fact that Mom is having  a hard time adulting. Dad pays a reasonable support and shouldn't just have to keep adding to it if Mom can't get her act  together. The best interests of the child would be a stable home life, with Mom as available as she wants to be, without being shamed for it. Maybe she needs more schooling, maybe she needs to find her footing, maybe  those things will never happen. But DD should know where she's living/going to school/activities without worrying about moving so  often,  sketchy room mate situations and the like. OP sounds like  a caring and considerate SM; bio mom should feel fortunate to have her child so loved.[/quote]

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