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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my opinion under the age of 5 no kid is difficult, they are all difficult in the sense that they are these little out of control humans. It's all big emotions and testing boundaries and crazy mood swings. They need love and gentle guidance. The crazier they behave, the calmer parents should be. With love, patience, and gentle guidance they outgrow it and become much more reasonable humans starting at 5 (there are some exceptions of course but I think that fits most kids).

I have 1 super easy kid - like ridiculously easy. Born rule follower, go with the flow, gets along with everyone, does what he is told, doesn't ask for much.

I have 1 super normal kid who next to the first one seems difficult but is actually not at all. She is just more emotional and dramatic and pushes more boundaries.

I love them both and I parent them at an individual level, everyone is an individual and we don't all needs the same things.

But if you are struggling on your own, there is so much help out there in the form of experts. Find it so that you can feel like a good, successful parent. It's the best job you will ever have![/quote]

It's easy to decide no kid is difficult under the age of 5 when your own experience is with kids who are either typical or easy. You certainly were blessed to have such an experience.

Those of us who have experienced the easy kid, the typical kid, and the difficult kid know that there are extremes on both ends and that there are real differences among children. You just haven't experienced it yourself, so it's hard for you to imagine what others are experiencing.

I personally thought all the child rearing books were garbage while rearing my first child, until I had another child who responded the way the books promised she would to the exact same things my first child did not respond to. Those books were not written for someone like my first child.[/quote]

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