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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is weird.  A bunch of military moms say "I just don't clean the house, feed them pancakes and McDonalds, and throw them in a pile with another family's kids while the moms drink" and everybody nods and claps.
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Then a non-military mom says "standards are lower and they don't worry about making everything perfect" and she gets attacked for being a snob.[/b]

Mmmkay.[/quote]

Well, you're not giving the full story.   That isn't all she said.
"Standards are lower. [b]They tend to not be educated[/b], so they’re not going to spend a lot of time on enriching games, reading, cooking nutritionally-balanced food, thinking about their development and what activities would best develop them. Which is fine, most kids don’t need that level of support. We educated UMC tend to over-do it."[/quote]
+1 was just coming to post this exact sentiment. [/quote]

There's a pretty big gap between military wives of enlisted men who have kids, and military wives of officers who have kids.  Your impression will likely depend on which group you've encountered.  [/quote]

I've encountered both.   I became friends with both.  It really isn't as broad a gap in my experience (as the wife of a Marine corps officer.)[/quote]

I've encountered both as well, and IME the main difference is the age they had kids.  There may well be wives of enlisted men who had kids later, and have parenting styles (planning play dates, all wooden toys, etc) that more closely line up with DCUM hypervigilant moms, but the ones I know had kids instead of going to or finishing college and match the description of the poster getting slammed as a snob.  They're good moms but they're also often overwhelmed because they have to be single parents on little income and their parenting doesn't look like DCUM bubble parenting, it looks more like the parenting I got growing up.  Books in the house, sure, but not socio-emotional focused no-screen-time-before-two gender-neutral-everything etc. etc. etc.[/quote]

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