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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You'll need to grieve your expectations.[/quote]

This response resonated with me.  OP is sad, because she had a vision for her daughter that will not come to pass. The thing is, this is going to happen over and over about many things, because our children will be who they are, which is likely to diverge from our fantasies.

OP, you need to reframe this in your head.  Unless you have some thoughts about homosexuality that are ingrained from a particular religious upbringing or something (which only you know, and in that case, you need to be prepared to do some serious work within yourself) this should not be any kind of special "disappointment"  to you. Maybe you saw your daughters as a way to have a son you always wanted and never had?  Well, that won't happen in this case.  No different than if you envisioned your child growing up to be a doctor and they chose something else.  Acknowledge your expectations, say goodbye to them, and focus on the beautiful child in front of you.[/quote]

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