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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love food. I am a good enough home cook but I love trying different restaurants, cuisines, flavors. It's something I genuinely enjoy and want to share with my partner.  I'm also Chinese. Sharing meals is part of how we socialize. I grew  up eating all different kinds of vegetables, fruits, and meats (and cuts of meat). I want to enjoy the things I grew up without having to edit or limit myself just because my partner has a narrow palate.

Picky eating ([b]not talking about medical/religious/ethical restrictions[/b]) would be a dealbreaker for me. I don't see it as any different than sharing a common value such as religion or finances. [/quote]

You just contradicted yourself.

If someone is a vegetarian for religious reasons that's OK for you because it is their religion.  But if someone does not eat meat because they don't like the taste of it then that is a dealbreaker for you?

The parenthetical was added to appear woke, I guess. [/quote]

It's not the same thing. If someone has a good reason to not do something, I can  respect that. Obviously, medical restrictions are out of their control. Religious/ethical restrictions are part of a larger value system that's important to them. It's bizarre when picky eaters think their arbitrary restrictions are comparable to medical/religious/ethical restrictions. It's simply not.

In my personal experience, people with medical/religious/ethical restrictions tend to be considerate of others' dietary habits (probably because they want others to be similarly considerate of them). They understand that their limitations are their limitations alone and they would not impose on others. Also, having medical/religious/ethical restrictions doesn't mean that someone can't enjoy a wide of foods, cuisines, flavors, etc. 
 
Picky eaters are literally limited in what they will eat and generally tend to expect others to cater to them. I have friends who are vegetarians for religious/ethical/health reasons, we eat at the same restaurants. Meal planning with them has never been a problem. It's always a struggle coordinating with the picky eaters in our group of friends because we have always have to make sure the 3-5 things that they'll eat are on the menu. That limits our options in a way that vegetarianism doesn't.  Once in a while, I can deal with this for a friend. But I can't how unpleasant it would be to deal with this on a daily basis with a partner.

If you can't understand how these scenarios are not the same, I don't know how else to clarify this.[/quote]

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