Total dealbreaker. Plus, when you have kids, good luck getting them to eat vegetables or eat like normal humans when dad doesn't. Even not liking vegetables is a big turnoff.

I think it's difficult to be partnered with anyone who is extremely rigid about anything. Had a college roommate who didn't ever want to go abroad. She didn't see the point, didn't like foreign languages or foreign countries, etc. Being with her would therefore be limiting in a way that it wouldn't be with someone else.
Same with someone who dislikes all foreign films, all sports, all vacations that aren't in an urban area or at a four star hotel, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I love food. I am a good enough home cook but I love trying different restaurants, cuisines, flavors. It's something I genuinely enjoy and want to share with my partner. I'm also Chinese. Sharing meals is part of how we socialize. I grew up eating all different kinds of vegetables, fruits, and meats (and cuts of meat). I want to enjoy the things I grew up without having to edit or limit myself just because my partner has a narrow palate.

Picky eating (not talking about medical/religious/ethical restrictions) would be a dealbreaker for me. I don't see it as any different than sharing a common value such as religion or finances.

You just contradicted yourself.

If someone is a vegetarian for religious reasons that's OK for you because it is their religion. But if someone does not eat meat because they don't like the taste of it then that is a dealbreaker for you?

The parenthetical was added to appear woke, I guess.

It's not the same thing. If someone has a good reason to not do something, I can respect that. Obviously, medical restrictions are out of their control. Religious/ethical restrictions are part of a larger value system that's important to them. It's bizarre when picky eaters think their arbitrary restrictions are comparable to medical/religious/ethical restrictions. It's simply not.

In my personal experience, people with medical/religious/ethical restrictions tend to be considerate of others' dietary habits (probably because they want others to be similarly considerate of them). They understand that their limitations are their limitations alone and they would not impose on others. Also, having medical/religious/ethical restrictions doesn't mean that someone can't enjoy a wide of foods, cuisines, flavors, etc.

Picky eaters are literally limited in what they will eat and generally tend to expect others to cater to them. I have friends who are vegetarians for religious/ethical/health reasons, we eat at the same restaurants. Meal planning with them has never been a problem. It's always a struggle coordinating with the picky eaters in our group of friends because we have always have to make sure the 3-5 things that they'll eat are on the menu. That limits our options in a way that vegetarianism doesn't. Once in a while, I can deal with this for a friend. But I can't how unpleasant it would be to deal with this on a daily basis with a partner.

If you can't understand how these scenarios are not the same, I don't know how else to clarify this.

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would be as tolerant for those who have food aversions as they are to other things that make people different from one another.

For those of you condemning people who dislike or won't eat certain things, did you ever try to become educated about it?


"About 20% of the population are “super-tasters”. Super-tasters have more taste buds than other people and are super sensitive to the bitter compounds found in some food and drinks, even at low concentrations. If you have inherited super-taster genes then cruciferous vegetables (flower vegetables in the cabbage family) like bok choy, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, radish, swede, turnip, and watercress will taste disgusting."

https://theconversation.com/hate-vegetables-you-might-have-super-taster-genes-74428

It is possible to be tolerant of that in family and friends, while not wanting to be married to a person with this issue and dealing with it day in and day out for decades.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

It's easy to pick out the picky eaters chiming in.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

I mean, I have gluten and dairy allergies, yet there is almost always something I can eat, unless I am at a ramen shop or something. I have friends who only order chicken fingers. So weird.

Are you posters all 22 or something? It seems very immature and superficial to dismiss a person for something like this.

Also, while people claim this is about practical differences, it seems they are really saying it’s about class. If you would accept someone who’s vegan or Keto or kosher but not someone who is generally picky, you’re really just saying you’re cooler than they are.

And if you’re saying you’re a foodie and could never be with someone who isn’t, then I don’t think long term partnering is for you. People all have their own hobbies. My husband is into sci fi and I’m totally not. I believe I worried about that once when I was 22. Life got much bigger and his other characteristics got much more important.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish people would be as tolerant for those who have food aversions as they are to other things that make people different from one another.

For those of you condemning people who dislike or won't eat certain things, did you ever try to become educated about it?

"About 20% of the population are “super-tasters”. Super-tasters have more taste buds than other people and are super sensitive to the bitter compounds found in some food and drinks, even at low concentrations. If you have inherited super-taster genes then cruciferous vegetables (flower vegetables in the cabbage family) like bok choy, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, radish, swede, turnip, and watercress will taste disgusting."

https://theconversation.com/hate-vegetables-you-might-have-super-taster-genes-74428

Eh. I'm a supertaster. I do actually like some of those vegetables (broccoli, bok choi, and watercress), assuming they are cooked well, although I did not like them as a kid. And what OP is describing isn't "super tasting," anyway. He's just an adult with an extremely limited palate, who doesn't cook, either, which means that a long-term relationship will either involve lots of fights about food, or OP having to either cook two meals or adjust to the guy's restrictions. That gets old really fast.

You are not a super taster if you like those vegetables. They taste so bitter to a supertaster. What has helped me is time. As I get older my taste buds are dulling.

DW is a really picky eater; she'll really only eat chicken or pasta. I, on the other hand, will eat almost anything.

Anyways, it's not a huge deal. DW is fine with my pallette, it's just that whenever we're cooking something at home, we have to be mindful of her pickyness. Whenever we eat out at a restaurant, I typically order something that she wouldn't make at home.

The only time it gets annoying is when we're going to someone's house for a meal, it's kind of awkward to say "ah well, DW doesn't eat fish."

Anonymous wrote:I love food. I am a good enough home cook but I love trying different restaurants, cuisines, flavors. It's something I genuinely enjoy and want to share with my partner. I'm also Chinese. Sharing meals is part of how we socialize. I grew up eating all different kinds of vegetables, fruits, and meats (and cuts of meat). I want to enjoy the things I grew up without having to edit or limit myself just because my partner has a narrow palate.

Picky eating (not talking about medical/religious/ethical restrictions) would be a dealbreaker for me. I don't see it as any different than sharing a common value such as religion or finances.

You just contradicted yourself.

If someone is a vegetarian for religious reasons that's OK for you because it is their religion. But if someone does not eat meat because they don't like the taste of it then that is a dealbreaker for you?

The parenthetical was added to appear woke, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would be as tolerant for those who have food aversions as they are to other things that make people different from one another.

For those of you condemning people who dislike or won't eat certain things, did you ever try to become educated about it?

"About 20% of the population are “super-tasters”. Super-tasters have more taste buds than other people and are super sensitive to the bitter compounds found in some food and drinks, even at low concentrations. If you have inherited super-taster genes then cruciferous vegetables (flower vegetables in the cabbage family) like bok choy, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, radish, swede, turnip, and watercress will taste disgusting."

https://theconversation.com/hate-vegetables-you-might-have-super-taster-genes-74428

Eh. I'm a supertaster. I do actually like some of those vegetables (broccoli, bok choi, and watercress), assuming they are cooked well, although I did not like them as a kid. And what OP is describing isn't "super tasting," anyway. He's just an adult with an extremely limited palate, who doesn't cook, either, which means that a long-term relationship will either involve lots of fights about food, or OP having to either cook two meals or adjust to the guy's restrictions. That gets old really fast.

I love food. I am a good enough home cook but I love trying different restaurants, cuisines, flavors. It's something I genuinely enjoy and want to share with my partner. I'm also Chinese. Sharing meals is part of how we socialize. I grew up eating all different kinds of vegetables, fruits, and meats (and cuts of meat). I want to enjoy the things I grew up without having to edit or limit myself just because my partner has a narrow palate.

Picky eating (not talking about medical/religious/ethical restrictions) would be a dealbreaker for me. I don't see it as any different than sharing a common value such as religion or finances.

I wish people would be as tolerant for those who have food aversions as they are to other things that make people different from one another.

For those of you condemning people who dislike or won't eat certain things, did you ever try to become educated about it?


"About 20% of the population are “super-tasters”. Super-tasters have more taste buds than other people and are super sensitive to the bitter compounds found in some food and drinks, even at low concentrations. If you have inherited super-taster genes then cruciferous vegetables (flower vegetables in the cabbage family) like bok choy, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, radish, swede, turnip, and watercress will taste disgusting."

https://theconversation.com/hate-vegetables-you-might-have-super-taster-genes-74428

Super picky eating is indicative of either an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder.

I’m not talking about people with legit dairy allergy or celiacs. They are some of the most flexible eaters, in my experience, because they learned from a young age that they need to be accepting of new foods that work with their diet.

mac and cheese, rice, fried chicken, any red meat

not exactly quality food you are making there maybe he likes more than you think but you are cooking for a 5 year old's apatite.