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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At that age, I wouldn’t have ruined the magic for her.

My kid turned 4 in October, so I guess not that much younger than yours. She definitely believes in Santa and we’re having fun with it.

All kids figure it out at some point. No need to rush it.[/quote]

She’ll  be 5 in January.

Last year she didn’t show any hesitation, told us all about Santa and how he does everything, and was very earnest about it. This year she’s been asking a lot more critical thinking type questions about how Santa does things (which I typically answered by asking what she thinks, [b]which frustrates her,  or by saying it’s magic, which she knows isn’t real), and then she asked if he’s real. 
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The 'what do you think' works for many kids, and it works for some kids for a time, and for other kids it's not the right approach. OP, you are fine. Please ignore the people who are 'so, so sad' for your daughter. Your daughter will be fine; it's all good. It sounds to me like she was ready to hear it, even if she was hoping for a different reply.[/quote]

I agree with this. My child also gets frustrated when she asks me about something that’s important to her and I reply with “What do you think?” She even follows up by asking if I can look it up on my phone or if we can find out at the library. She’s 5 by the way. It’s silly how some parents like to pretend that the “what do you think?” deflection works all the time. It doesn’t. And I think that not telling my daughter would have been more hurtful than whatever disappointment she had over finding out. It’s a terrible feeling to sense that everyone is lying to you but not know for sure and have your parents constantly blow you off.

Let’s face it — if a kid is asking this way they already know. They’re just waiting to find out if they can trust you to give them accurate information. [/quote]

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