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[quote=Anonymous][quote]You seem crazy. Giving a mentally ill relative who spreads gossip about you, information about your life is going in the EXACT OPPOSITE DIRECTION you should be. You need to snuff OUT the fire, by giving the relative LESS oxygen, not more. Give them NO information.

There are more family than this one relative, I think op shouldn't hide their life because of one person. Stand tall and proud op .

Op here. Thank you

To the PP, so much is in the public record anyway. My mom can find tons of information just through google. I’m not going to not live my life because my mother might find out.

Her approach the last few years has been more to pretend I never existed, from what I can gather. The most tenacious rumor spreading/gossip/lies were a bigger thing a more from like 2005-2015. However, a lot of people distances themselves from me as a result and haven’t come back.

It’s easy to say just forget all of them, but these were people I loved and enjoyed. Of course I wish there was a way to see them physically and talk to them but everyone is spread out everywhere and it’s awkward because so much time has passed for me to just call them up. I’m also not going to beg them to have a relationship with me, but I’d like them to know I’m not institutionalized (nor have I ever been), and that I have a family of my own now and we are doing ok.[/quote]

It's fine to send the card in and of itself, but your family sounds drama-prone and immature, and by sending the card/newsletter with the intent of proving something, you are feeding into it.  Just take a hard think about whether you would send it absent this situation.  If so, go for it.  If not, take a pass.[/quote]

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