Reply to Girlfriend Doesn't Want Kids..

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Girlfriend Doesn't Want Kids.."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]You will resent her. Those are fundamental differences that of course you should break up for.

She is 32. If you get married within a year, you will want to start trying to have kids. No need to wait until 34, 35, 36, 37 and find out you or her has infertility issues.

Just make sure she is dead set on not having kids. Frankly, I was career oriented and never liked kids. I found them boring. I got married at 32. I wasn't sure I was ready to make all the sacrifices of becoming a mother. My husband pushed me and we tried to get pregnant, had to go through infertility testing and two rounds of IVF. Even after I got pregnant, I wasn't sure I was going to handle childcare well enough. Gave birth shortly before turning 36. Childcare has been tough but childcare is not enjoyable. Sleepless nights, the tediousness, the repetition. But happily, I found that I still didn't enjoy other people's kids, but was infatuated, amazed, in love with my child. It was just an amazing feeling to see the child develop from a baby into a toddler into a preschooler. I enjoyed being a mom so much we went for kid number two.

I always assumed I was going to have kids, then in my 20s and until I had them I wasn't sure if I would be caring enough, patient enough, sacrificial enough of a mom. But I didn't want "not have kids". So try to see if what your GF fears, to see if they are fears you can solve together. If they are not and she's 100% sure about no kids, please don't get married. Having a child versus not is not something one party can sacrifice and the couple can overcome successfully. Resentment is guaranteed and will ultimately break up the couple. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics