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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, we are both on the lease, I cannot afford this on my own.
Money was ok when we moved in, I had savings
Then covid hit and initially I got some more pay. I couldn't take the stress and went back to my old job that paid less, but had a promise of advancement. This hasn't materialized. I want to go back to school and study part time, which means not much change financially for the duration.
He is very irritated that I do not pay my way. I want to, but my pay just doesn't go far enough.
Now he is talking about not renewing the lease.
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Here is the issue. If you lived with roommates, you would not have quit your stressful job for a lower paying job and expected your roommates to pick up the slack. You would have either stayed at the stressful job, found a higher paying new job, or looked into downsizing to a more affordable option because you felt the trade off would have been worth it. If you were married to your boyfriend, you could have ended up quitting the stressful job BUT you would have needed to discuss it, see if financially if that made sense for the both of you, should you stay longer until you’ve saved x more, could you downsize to balance out the difference in salary, should you look for a different job first versus going back to old job, what could you jointly cut back to make it happen if you went back to the old job etc. So to live the same lifestyle with no sacrifices as you change your job/what you go after while expecting your boyfriend to pick up the financial slack without it operating as if you were married and need to both agree ...that’s a problem.[/quote]

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