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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I am not going to email anyone. This all happened a year ago -- I do not want to be in contact with them, or create new drama, or make myself vulnerable to them in any way. I am at peace with that.

Voodoo dolls are intriguing though!  :wink: [/quote]
+1 Smart, OP.  It is not your job to try and teach them a lesson.  Your mental health comes first.  I'm glad you are focused on that.

OP, I've never had a group ostracize me, but I have had in my past a litany of sh**y competitive friends.  I have learned and taught my kids the following (and I've said this on DCUM before):

1) It is not enough to be a good friend.  You also have to know how to pick good friends.

2) To find a good friend, you have to watch over the long run.  Sooner or later something good will happen to you, or something bad will happen to you.

3) When something good happens to you, note who is excited for you, who downplays it, and who has suddenly disappeared?

4) When something bad happens to you, note, who is helping you, who is absorbed in Shadenfreude, and who has suddenly disappeared?

It's basically just the recipe to figure out who is competing with you and who just thinks you are great just the way you are.

So be choosy, OP.  One or two great friends are better than these 40 turncoats[/quote]

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