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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have them over for drinks?  For dinner?  Afternoon BBQ?  [/quote]

OP here. We have invited them over for drinks outside a few times. They have made it clear they had other plans after--felt like pity drinks. They were nice but clearly busy. They have also had outdoor parties (invited us) and it was mainly the affluent, cool parents in town. Felt out of place. They have never done anything outwardly mean -- they have accepted our invites and extended in return, but there's not a ton of chemistry and they clearly have their own crowd already and we aren't breaking in.

But my DD is in the same class as her DD and they also take dance together so a friendship/connection is more organic and they see one another more. I took this all to heart and invited the whole family over tonight for drinks/apps outside and they said yes, including with her DD.

I have told my own DD that friends come and go. I've encouraged her to turn down an invite but the pull is strong. This girl is definitely the queen bee even in elementary. I know I have issues around the envy. I think I grew up feeling like an outsider (we moved all the time as a kid) and it has stuck with me. I'm projecting a lot onto this family and I know it. I am working on it. Part of me just wants to move to get away from it, which I know sounds very drastic.[/quote]

They're you're *neighbors* FFS, how much more affluent could they possibly be?  We have a similar relationship with our neighbors.  Have had some social interactions, a few drinks, some parties.  I like them fine and probably vice versa, but we're not going to be BFFs.  Then again, I don't want to be and there's no hero worship from afar either.  They have their friends and we have ours, and there's a bit of overlap socially.  But we're in DC, it's a big town.  Plenty of friends for everyone.  They (your neighbors) sound perfectly nice, you sound like you are making it awkward.  It's ok to be "outer circle" friends with people, not everyone is going to be super close.  Just enjoy the casual get togethers from time to time and try to relax for pete's sake.[/quote]

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