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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have them over for drinks?  For dinner?  Afternoon BBQ?  [/quote]

OP here. We have invited them over for drinks outside a few times. They have made it clear they had other plans after--felt like pity drinks. They were nice but clearly busy. They have also had outdoor parties (invited us) and it was mainly the affluent, cool parents in town. Felt out of place. They have never done anything outwardly mean -- they have accepted our invites and extended in return, but there's not a ton of chemistry and they clearly have their own crowd already and we aren't breaking in.

But my DD is in the same class as her DD and they also take dance together so a friendship/connection is more organic and they see one another more. I took this all to heart and invited the whole family over tonight for drinks/apps outside and they said yes, including with her DD.

I have told my own DD that friends come and go. I've encouraged her to turn down an invite but the pull is strong. This girl is definitely the queen bee even in elementary. I know I have issues around the envy. I think I grew up feeling like an outsider (we moved all the time as a kid) and it has stuck with me. I'm projecting a lot onto this family and I know it. I am working on it. Part of me just wants to move to get away from it, which I know sounds very drastic.[/quote]

I don't know. They seem fairly nice. They always accept your invites and their daughter does include yours, even if the chemistry doesn't seem to be there. I wish my mom put more effort into teaching me manners, social skills and how to take care of myself and put makeup on at a younger age. I was cute and had friends but never had any confidence that I was pulled together like other females whose moms made it more of a priority. I wish my mom talked to me more about how to talk to adults and introduce myself. You sound like you may be a little socially awkward and you may not be modeling all of this for her. [/quote]

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