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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ah yes, let’s blame women for men’s behavior. [/quote]

Is it though?   I think we all know what OP is  talking about the lazy, uninvolved fathers that constantly are complained about on here, but then  get laughed of with " oh that's just men.'

It's the same as the person who is supplying alcohol to the family alcoholic because it's safer if they don't drive.  Yes the alcoholic is  responsible , but so is the person who is enabling by buying the drinks.[/quote]

Well,[b] if your spouse really is lazy and uninvolved, what are you supposed to do?  [/b]You can leave your kid at home alone with someone who is lazy and won't take care of them, but that seems...suboptimal.  You can't make someone be energetic and involved.  You can't make them care about their kids' well-being.  I don't think it's "just men," because I know many men who are capable, involved fathers, but if someone is a crap parent, you can't make them better unless they want to improve.  I guess you can divorce them, but again, that's not going to make them a better parent.  Maybe they'll pass on custody, but maybe they won't, and you end up with kids who spend their time at their dad's with a sitter or his new girlfriend or whatever.

And it's nothing like enabling an addiction.  [/quote]

According to this site you’re supposed to go back in time and not marry him. Or at least not have kids with him.
Never mind that it’s pretty difficult to know what someone will be like as a parent before you have kids. Never mind that even if she was overly optimistic about his capabilities, there’s nothing she can do about it now.

The child exists.

His father is lazy and won’t supervise him.

What is his mother supposed to do?

(For simplicity’s sake let’s assume that she does not own or otherwise have access to a time machine, so please skip all suggestions that involve going back in time.) 
  
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