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[b]I think the issue is that it would be so easy for grandma to switch from the word secret to surprise. [/b]It shouldn’t be up to a child to decide who it’s ok to keep secrets from mom with.

Another issue with your post, and not necessarily applicable to OP’s situation, but sometimes parents trust caregivers they shouldn’t. Sometimes it’s a grandparent, babysitter, uncle, or hell, sometimes it’s even the parent, who is abusing the child. If you deal with abuse, then you must know the stats about how often it is someone you know and trust vs some random lady down the street. You also must be familiar with how many victims the average child predator has, and how charming and successful they are to gain access to so many children. If it were easy for kids to navigate and protect themselves, abuse wouldn’t be such a taboo subject and we wouldn’t have to train children and adults to be wary, even of people we should be able to trust. [/quote]

The flip side of that is it would be so easy for pedophiles to switch from the word secret to surprise. The secret/surprise dichotomy is a false sense of security for parents to protect against predators. And the real issue here is DH and MIL not respecting OP's boundaries.[/quote]Or the OP has had issues with her MIL, and maybe is a bit of a control freak, and this is a bone she feels she can pick and appear to be righteous in her crusade.[/quote]

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