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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I disagree with everyone.  It may not be too late to save this marriage.  Why, if he felt truly estranged from you, would he bother with flowers and a breakfast spread?  The opposite of love is not hate, as we all know, but indifference.  He sounds anything but indifferent.  I feel nearly certain that if you went to him and opened your heart to the possibility of doing your marriage differently he would give you another chance.  I believe he still loves you, but is exhausted by your failure to listen.  If you want to stay with him you will need to commit to reducing your time with your parents to no more than once monthly.  He has tried things your way.  Now it is time for you to try things his way.  If you give up without making one last effort I believe you will regret it.  Try.[/quote]

I agree with this poster.  Since your Dad is an alcoholic and his parents are alcoholics have you (not the two of you) checked out Al Anon.  It really really helped me as a daughter of an alcoholic and helped me set healthy boundaries
with alcoholic Dad.

If you go to marriage counseling I'd get someone who specializes in alcoholism or drug addiction in families, not a standard marriage counselor.

Is alcohol part of the scene at all of your family (on your side) functions?

Agree with PP, cut your visits back to once a month or once a quarter.  Try out 6 Al Anon meetings.  If you go to marriage counseling get one who specializes in addictions in families.

Signed, daughter of an alcoholic who crashed to the floor dead drunk at 11:00 am Christmas Day when I had a new boyfriend over to meet the family.[/quote]

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