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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had my first at 27. The pros for me were no fertility issues, plenty of time to space out another child, and getting through the baby/toddler years while we were young. There are cons, too, most notably my career. It's really hard to build a career with an infant/toddler at an age when most people don't have kids. It took me a long time in my thirties to catch up with my peers and in my late thirties I struggled with feeling inferior. We also had less money because I made less. The very young baby years are wonderful but also kind of miserable, and it might have been nice to have old friends who were also going through the same thing -- mine were still mostly single and didn't get it, at all.

It's nice now that we're in our 40s/50s and our kids are older and will be leaving for college soon.

So anyway, pluses and minuses. I'd probably delay a couple years if I were doing it over, but there were good things about it.[/quote]

I just thought I'd add to this - we were also educated with grad degrees, had just bought a house, and had stable jobs. The thing I didn't anticipate was how difficult it would be for me in my late 20s/early 30s to cope with raising a baby while building a career. (In stereotypical fashion, my husband's career was not impacted at all). I paid a price professionally for it that he didn't. Something to keep in mind.[/quote]
This was my experience as well.  My career suffered, I also don’t have any friends with kids the same age as my eldest.  I have four kids, and all my friends started having kids when I was on my third.  I really feel like I missed out, and I don’t really feel like I have a lot of close friends.  Might have felt differently if I had waited.[/quote]

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