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Reply to "Therapist Won't Condemn my Partner's Affair."
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry if I wasn't clear. My partner had an affair. I only discovered because I saw their texts. We decided to try counseling.[b] Partner has yet to apologize or admit they were wrong. [/b] On first visit, the therapist said they were not in a position to make judgement on whether the affair was wrong. I need there to be an admission and recognition of wrongdoing in order to proceed toward forgiveness. I was raised that you apologize when you're wrong.[/quote] This is a huge red flag to me. Your partner should not require therapy for this. 15 years ago my husband had an EA. I confronted him and he immediately accepted blame, begged forgiveness and swore off any further contact of any kind. Immediately. And he kept his word. Anything short of that I don’t think I could have stayed with him. Refusing to admit fault and apologize amounts to gaslighting and or lack of remorse to me.[/quote]
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