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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.  When DH and I sat down to figure out if we wanted a 2nd kid (we were both on the fence) we basically decided the life we could give DS as an only was better than if we had 2 kids.  And we've never regretted our decision.  DS has had a lot of opportunities that wouldn't have been possible if we had another child.  [/quote]

I truly don’t want to be mean bc I respect everyone’s decision. But did you ever consider the opinion of your kid or any kid? If you asked a kid would they have rather have had whatever it was you could give him or her as an only (vacation, school, etc) or give them a sibling, what do you think they would say now? Or say at age 20, 30 when we all start analyzing our childhood?

Maybe he or she would say I’m glad I was an only so I got those things. But most only a I know want more than one kid bc they don’t want the childhood they had as an only.

Consider the other side. [/quote]
Not PP, but I'm pretty damn fine with not consulting children with what to do with my body and my money.[/quote]

Right. But the PP said she wanted to have one for the life they could give him. That’s assuming that life makes him/her happy. So if you’re saying that you’re doing it to make your child happy then I have to question the basic assumption that vacations/paid for college would make them happier than having a companion and someone to navigate life, aging parents, etc.

If you just said we had one bc this is what we want okay. But if you say we did it to make the kid happy then that is grounds for questioning that assumption. [/quote]

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