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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm Indian (the child of immigrants), so I get the difference between Indian friends and "American" friends.  It's hard to explain, but I hope this provides a little perspective.  Where I grew up, our Indian community was very, very close.  Our parents were all each other had because their family was thousands of miles away - it was like the community replaced the families our parents had left.  My parents had American friends, but they were held a little bit at arms length because they weren't really a known entity.  They were also a little worried that they  might not be doing the right thing or saying the right things since we weren't American.

I'd like to suggest that you speak to your friend about it kindly.  Just say "I would love to have Priya over for a playdate, and I would be happy to pick her up. You've seemed reluctant about it in the past, is there anything that I can do to make you feel more comfortable with this?"  Maybe even throw in something about having known them for years, and feeling like you're close family friends at this point.

I promise you this isn't because she doesn't like you, or she doesn't trust you, or even that she doesn't value your friendship.  I'm sure she does, it's truly just level of comfort.

*Cue the DCUMers bashing me for trying to help out both OP and her friend.[/quote]

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