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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I divorced at age 35 when my daughter was a baby.  Adopted another child and was a single mom with two (young) kids by age 37.  I am very average looking.  Financially sound.

I found online dating to be a real boon because any potential dates knew your situation right off the bat so avoided situations where the potential date was not OK with a single mom etc.

I dated from the time my kids were babies (including while going through the adoption).  I found lots of great men that were fine with the situation-- and were flexible with my schedule (especially with early dates being weekday lunch dates or around my preferred babysitter's schedule etc.).  Some of the men had kids, plenty were childless.

I found the hardest years to date were when my kids were tweens/young teens.  They need a lot of driving around at that age, they sleep less, are nosier and more generally aware so more explanations are needed but they are not yet mature enough to really "understand."

The only real tough time I had dating was when I had put on some significant weight....  As soon as I took that back off, I had plenty of dating opportunities.

Good luck!  Congrats from getting out of a bad situation.  I never regretted my choice to divorce or my adoption or being a mom first or dating while being a single mom.[/quote]

I find this very interesting. I’m really curious though. I know quite a few single moms and many of them say they get a lot of interest from childless men. Most of them ended marrying childless men.

It makes me wonder why a childless man would consider a single mom. Because a single mom usually has kids and that’s a lot of responsibility. Also, what makes him choose a single mom over a childless woman?

I’m not hating on single mom’s. I’m just curious as to how they get dates from childless men. I know plenty of childless men who outright refuse to marry single moms and have a negative attitude towards them. They refer to them as baggage. But I haven’t really come across childless men who willingly date single moms.

If you or any PP were single moms and received interest from childless men, I’m just curious to how these men were like and what were there reasons in not minding to peruse you when they had other options?[/quote]

I'm the poster above who had no issues getting dates with a single mom including childless guys.  I totally get some guys see kids as "baggage."  I think it helped that I don't have any drama with my ex-husband.  I think it also helps that I'm not looking for financial help.

One childless guy that I dated (didn't go anywhere but we stayed friends) told me that he liked the idea that if something worked out with a single mom he gets a "built in" family.  A lot of the childless guys seem to have always wanted to get married and have kids but for one reason or another didn't so they seemed to have found a single mom to be a bit of a "second chance" to get the whole package.

The guy I am currently in a serious relationship never had kids and definitely sees my kids as a "bonus," not a detriment.  Sure--  he doesn't always get the "drama" of kids and how much of a time suck they can be but all-in-all, he enjoys the kids being in his life.

I am also pleasantly surprised that the families of these childless men also welcome my kids and there has never been an issue like "what is my son/brother/nephew doing with a woman that has kids??"[/quote]

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