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Mine is a "fake" loving: loving only when other people are around. Once it's quiet, he would rather watch junk TV and eat junk alone than spend time with me. (no cuddling in bed/laying down together(he decided to sleep in separate bedrooms), no kissing, pretty much nothing other than maintenance sex once in a while to keep me "content").

Mine has plenty of great attributes in almost every other area.

If we cannot fix this, we will divorce. My children will probably suffer(he is a great dad) but I would not advise them to stay in this kind of marriage. I had a great dad, but my mom was very unhappy and I could feel it. I hated it, and when I was around 10, I wrote my parents an anonymous letter asking them to divorce.

Recently my younger kid walked into the bedroom while my DH was on the bed and she was surprised to see him there. Imagine a child being surprised to find both of her parents on the same bed. My heart sank, and I decided things will change or we will divorce.

And no, he was not always like this. We used to cuddle and kiss a lot when we were dating. His excuse is that he is an introvert and tired from parenting/work. Well, everyone has these problems yet they find time to connect with their spouses.

My excuse is that I have been too empathetic towards him, making excuses for his "uncaring" behavior at every stop (it's pretty confusing because he is very caring in general). Maybe he is gay, maybe he is no longer in love with me/attracted to me. Whatever the reason is, the situation is not sustainable. If time away from me is what he wants, he can get all that time he wants when we divorce.

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