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[quote=Anonymous]There are few different things entwined in the problem and it is not matter of rude or not rude
but just matter of being able to find some common ground and make it easier and enjoyable
on everyone:

1. Hosting parents often have limited budget. 
2. Invited parents often have more then one children and also limited budget and options
for childcare.

To solve it there are few civilized options and there is no one size fits all

1. Demanding on a hosting parent to pay for anyone and everyone is not the matter
of rudeness, it is lack of ability to understand that  not everyone can afford
extra child to be hosted. If they could they most likely would invite more BDay
child.

2. While nobody can educate the whole world to those simple two sides
of the story that not everyone can afford to pay extra and not everyone
can just leave kid behind this needs to be worked on case by case situation.

3. If you are a host - always spell upfront what the rules are so the people
ho have extra kids and no founds or option to store them elsewhere will have option.
Just say on the invitation what those rules are:
- are they welcome?
- or not?
- or they are but the parents will be responsible for the extra fees caused by this

4. If you are a invitee, you need to realize that b.day party is like going
to the movies, it is not free, every extra child cost extra so imposing
this charge on the unsuspecting host is not exact fair, unless of course
they spelled it upfront. You should not only ask if it is okay to bring
extra child but also be ready to offer to cover the extra cost.

5. Not all parents want to have the younger sibling in the mix during
the event. Not all older kids like other little kids participating because
this frankly might ruin the whole event for the celebrant. 
The B. Kid is who it is about and this should be respected.

6. There is always or most of the time a drop off option so for those
who have extra kids, they can just drop off and leave, go to the store
next door etc. Use t his option instead of making it difficult on everyone
if you can not afford to pay for your little one and if they host family
is not wealthy enough to invite the whole world and pay for them.

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