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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Call Claire Lerner first thing Monday. She will change your life, your relationship with child, and save your marriage. She is outstanding. She often works hand in hand with an OT that is gifted at helping change challenging behaviors in difficult children. Good luck and just call Claire- you’ll be alright. [/quote]

The child doesn’t seem difficult though. She’s behaving like any child would to being rejected by her mother. She also has to watch her mother love her two brothers unconditionally while rejecting her. That’s really hard for a kid.

I think the mom needs individual therapy. This isn’t a parenting issue so much as something very troubling is going on with OP. Maybe OP is conditioned to be on edge with other female family members because of her experience with her own mom and sister. I don’t know why she’s keeping her daughter at arms length, but she should try to figure it out. At a minimum send your daughter to full day preschool. This little girl doesn’t need to be rejected all day every day at home. That sounds hellish.

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Just reading this while kids have tv time before lunch and have to laugh at “she doesn’t seem difficult”. Just a snippet from
 today already. She got into the car at preschool pickup and I tried to hug/kiss her and she growled at me and pulled away. She grabbed my half drank Diet Coke from the front of the car and said she wanted it. I said she could have a little bit with lunch. She opened it and drank it while running to the back
Of the van. I reached back and grabbed it from her and she screamed and refused to get into her car seat. We sat in the parking lot for awhile until I was able to convince her to eat the apple I brought her as a snack then I was able to buckle her in.

We drove home. When we got home, I allow them to watch a show while I prepare lunch and sometimes get her little brother to nap. I put on a show she didn’t like (she just liked it yesterday) and screamed at me to change it. I said no and put the remote up high where I keep it. She pushed a chair over, grabbed it, (while I was watching her and telling her not to), and then ran into the room with it. She refused to give
It to me. I grabbed it from her hands when she watch on the couch and she kicked me hard in the stomach. I ignored her and walked away while she tantrumed. I took her little brother upstairs to put him down to nap and she ran upstairs and kicked me in the back of the legs 
I told her to go in her room for a time out. She refused. I picked her up and put her in there and held the door closed for a
Few minutes. She trashed her room.

After getting this out, I opened the door and hugged her and told her her snack was downstairs. She went down to get it and then I put my son down to nap.

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