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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Couple examples recently...

1) At the playground, parent whining/cajoling their 5 year old to stop climbing up the slide when another kid was trying to go down.  Lots of: "Come on now Larlo.  I mean it. etc." but the kid is just blatantly ignoring the parent and doesn't get off.  The parent never actually just went over there and removed their kid off the slide.

2) 2 year old girl at our house for a play date, and she doesn't want to leave.  Her mom is saying: "Time to go now Larla!  Please Larla!  We have to go.  If you don't come right now Mommy's going to be very sad at you." and on and on until she ended up bribing her with something.

When these things happen, I truly wonder why parents don't just physically intervene.  Like, why not just pick up your kid and head out?  I know the playdate mom fairly well, and she's smart, and she's not lazy.  [/quote]

I've been a nanny for many years and now I am a mom. The reason parents don't say or do anything is that many of them are just embarrassed by their kids' behavior. The other reason is that parents want their kids to like them. This is a huge issue at the school where I teach. Parents let their kids do whatever they want so their kids won't be mad at them. Then they come to school with rules and limits and the kids act crazy since nobody has ever laid down the law with them. It's getting worse every year.[/quote]

I mean, sure, those are two possibilities.  Another possibility is that my kid is older and I'm not in the headspace to monitor their every interaction on the playground because they need more independence at this stage.  Believe me, I'm setting plenty of age-appropriate limits.  But I'm just not going to stage manage their park experience anymore.[/quote]

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