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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

You're ok if a kid KICKS another kid?!

Wow.

If my kid is not sharing or taking turns on the playground and gets called out by another kid? Yes I’m OK with that. If they are refusing to move on a slide and get kicked by someone else coming down? Also OK.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

You're ok if a kid KICKS another kid?!

Wow.

If my kid is not sharing or taking turns on the playground and gets called out by another kid? Yes I’m OK with that. If they are refusing to move on a slide and get kicked by someone else coming down? Also OK.

Yup.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

You're ok if a kid KICKS another kid?!

Wow.

If my kid is not sharing or taking turns on the playground and gets called out by another kid? Yes I’m OK with that. If they are refusing to move on a slide and get kicked by someone else coming down? Also OK.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

You're ok if a kid KICKS another kid?!

Wow.

If my kid is not sharing or taking turns on the playground and gets called out by another kid? Yes I’m OK with that. If they are refusing to move on a slide and get kicked by someone else coming down? Also OK.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

You're ok if a kid KICKS another kid?!

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

Not pp, but yes, I would. Bet that blows your mind.

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

Fine. But if my 5 year old kicks your 5 year old coming down the slide when your kid won't get out of the way for a long time, you'll be cool with that, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting. Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:To the poster above- I think we have different definitions of cooperating. If an older kid is going up the slide while my kid is trying to go down- that isnt cooperation.

"Oops, hold on Larlo. Looks like this big kid is taking a turn on the slide. Okay, your turn once the big kid is up!"

OR

"Uh oh, Larlo, looks like these big kids are playing on the slide already. Let's go down the other slide or crawl through this cool tunnel instead!"

This is really not hard, folks.

DP but are you suggesting if the big kids are sitting on the slide for 15 min this is acceptable? What about the concept of taking turns? I get it, if it’s just trying to climb up a couple of times but kids sitting/climbing up doesn’t exactly sound like sharing or playing nicely. I assume 2-5 yr old playground still counts as toddler playground to you?

Not PP, really let the kids work it out. I’m sorry there is not a playground manager to contact.

a 2 yr old isn’t going to mess with older kids, at least not more shy ones and that’s just sad. I thought the point of parenting was to teach kids how to behave like civilized people and to advocate for themselves. It’s super awkward to even ask other kids to stop throwing sand so it would be nice if people paid a little more attention.

Can we be honest? Some kids are kind of brats and their parents just don’t GAF. I took my tot to a 1-6 yr old playplace. Encountered a 5 or 6 yo who kept pushing the toddler out of the way from an unoccupied toy, like running from another corner to do this, saying he was too small. I told him it was toddlers turn now and the kid is like I don’t have to share! I don’t have to share! Ok whatever...We walk away and come back when the kid is gone and he does it again. I’m supposed to let them work it out?

Anonymous wrote:My kids are teens. There were a few times when my kids were in grade school when I blurted out, "Why are you treating your mother this way? She does so much for you, and deserves to be treated well" to kids who were not behaving toward their mothers who were my neighborhood friends. It got the kids to stop what they were doing. Then again, I'm not afraid to stand up for other people.

I think there are moms who have become total doormats in the face of their kids' poor behavior and need to hear good things about themselves said out loud by somebody else.

Anonymous wrote:I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well.

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Anonymous wrote:To the poster above- I think we have different definitions of cooperating. If an older kid is going up the slide while my kid is trying to go down- that isnt cooperation.

"Oops, hold on Larlo. Looks like this big kid is taking a turn on the slide. Okay, your turn once the big kid is up!"

OR

"Uh oh, Larlo, looks like these big kids are playing on the slide already. Let's go down the other slide or crawl through this cool tunnel instead!"

This is really not hard, folks.

DP but are you suggesting if the big kids are sitting on the slide for 15 min this is acceptable? What about the concept of taking turns? I get it, if it’s just trying to climb up a couple of times but kids sitting/climbing up doesn’t exactly sound like sharing or playing nicely. I assume 2-5 yr old playground still counts as toddler playground to you?

Not PP, really let the kids work it out. I’m sorry there is not a playground manager to contact.

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Anonymous wrote:Couple examples recently...

1) At the playground, parent whining/cajoling their 5 year old to stop climbing up the slide when another kid was trying to go down. Lots of: "Come on now Larlo. I mean it. etc." but the kid is just blatantly ignoring the parent and doesn't get off. The parent never actually just went over there and removed their kid off the slide.

2) 2 year old girl at our house for a play date, and she doesn't want to leave. Her mom is saying: "Time to go now Larla! Please Larla! We have to go. If you don't come right now Mommy's going to be very sad at you." and on and on until she ended up bribing her with something.

When these things happen, I truly wonder why parents don't just physically intervene. Like, why not just pick up your kid and head out? I know the playdate mom fairly well, and she's smart, and she's not lazy.

I've been a nanny for many years and now I am a mom. The reason parents don't say or do anything is that many of them are just embarrassed by their kids' behavior. The other reason is that parents want their kids to like them. This is a huge issue at the school where I teach. Parents let their kids do whatever they want so their kids won't be mad at them. Then they come to school with rules and limits and the kids act crazy since nobody has ever laid down the law with them. It's getting worse every year.