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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two kids, older than yours. One is very easygoing, very well-behaved, and the kind of child that makes you wish you had a houseful of kids.  The other is a challenge, difficult to like at time, and the kind that makes you realize if he had been the first child, he'd be the only child.  And just to be clear, I love both my children dearly. As it turns out, the challenging child has anxiety that manifests itself through oppositional behavior and anger.  He is in counseling and DH and I have done parent training too.  It was clear from a very young age, 2 or so, that he had different needs.  So sometimes that "spirited" child actually has real needs that should be addressed.

Good luck, OP![/quote]

Can you please share how your DS was diagnosed and what steps you took to get him into counseling? He sounds similar to my DS who is almost 3 and may very well end up an only child because of his behavior! We've discussed with his pediatrician who didn't seem concerned but I think we might need to be a bit more proactive and at least get an evaluation. [/quote]

PP here. It's been a more recent diagnosis for him, but was not surprising by any means.  He's now in 4th grade and when he was in 2nd, I started taking him a counselor, which wasn't a positive experience for anyone involved.  We actually took him to get a psychoeducational eval at George Mason at the end of 2nd grade because we noticed a major resistance to school work, etc. and had wanted to make sure we weren't missing any learning flags. They did indeed give him an anxiety diagnosis, along with sub-clinical symptoms of ADHD and oppositional defiance disorder.  He started counseling at George Mason for his 3rd grade year, where they did CBT.

We also had him evaluated by Kennedy Krieger, which also gave him an anxiety diagnosis. They offered to give him medication.  DH and I are not opposed to meds by any means, but we wanted to really give CBT a good try before thinking about meds.  DS continues to be in counseling at Mason.  I am a worrier- probably do have clinical anxiety myself- so I'm not surprised.  DS also has had some health issues early on- severe food allergies, lots of ear infections, asthma concerns- so just a lot going on for a kid who's already predisposed to anxiety.

Good luck.  We're still new to dealing with all this, but from what I can read, anger and anxiety (and ADHD) are all often intertwined with each other.

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Thank you so much for your response and I just want to say your son is so lucky to have you as parents. I am also a worrier and I'm afraid I've passed that on to my DS as well. We will be looking to get him evaluated soon. Thank you so much again for your response. [/quote]

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