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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How many hours? From the second the kids are awake until they go to sleep. DH and I are both equally caring for them, cooking, cleaning, errands... There is no free time. I do go to dinner with my friends once a week and we have a date night once a week. This was what we wanted when we chose to have kids though. I LOVE being around my kids.[/quote]

This is us too.  There's a set of tasks that have to be completed every day (dressing kids, feeding kids, cleaning up after kids, etc.) and we just do the stuff that needs to be done until the kids are in bed.

When DW and I took our respective parental leaves it is true that the at home parent wanted a break from watching the child when the other got home.  However, it was only a break from watching the child, the at home parent would do other stuff such as cooking dinner, folding laundry or whatever else until the tasks were done.  [/quote]

Pretty much this. When kids are under 5 or so (and certainly with a toddler) there is little or no free time for either parent until kids  are in bed for the night. At least on weekdays. That’s just the way it is, and I’ve both WOHM and SAHM. I’d pretty much get this expectation out of BOTH of your heads (yours and DHs). Yes sometimes one of us would be bathing the kids etc but the other parent was cleaning up the kitchen etc. Not having free time. That happened after the kids were in bed or in the weekends when we switch off- or when we get a sitter.

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