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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, this is tough. I would speak confidentiality to someone at the school to alert them to what happened. Who knows- maybe he’s done this to other girls.

Also sounds like a lot of (continued) talks with your daughter are needed to make sure she isn’t internalizing this but also to let her know all of her feelings are normal and that she didn’t do anything wrong.  This type of thing has happened to many of us - she is not alone. And that there’s always a fear of retaliation or embarrassment when reporting things like this, but try to encourage her to see the importance of doing so.[/quote]

Yup, this ^^

Most of these bullies/harassers/absuers pick the victims they think won't act, won't push back. It's important for your daughter to learn that setting the bar at "Oh hell no" (you don't have to say it that way!) is important to do early and clearly.  Good for her for telling him all she did tell him, she handled that really well.  But now she needs to be confident she did nothing wrong, she should tell other trusted friends about it so she's not the only one who knows (and her 1 friend), and also you should reinforce with her that if he makes up stories about her and tries to shame her, her best response is to NOT CARE and know that everyone's focus will move on to something else soon enough.  But if she shows it bothers her or gets to her, it'll be relentless.

Something needs to be reported to the school because these are the same types of boys who go on to continue "not taking no for an answer" but it gets worse and more violent and the more called out he is early, the better for all involved.  Including him.[/quote]

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