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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are 100% in control of this situation. It's so normal it's a cliche. What you are feeling is perfectly normal, but you need to decide who you are, what your values are, and what your family means to you. The emotions you have for this other woman are addictive and you aren't thinking clearly. Pretend you have an affair and leave your wife for her. You will have to love the rest if your life knowing that you are a liar, cheater, morally compromised man who devastated your family over a crush. Your family and friends, if they even still talk to you, will always think of this other woman as a honewrecking whore, even a decade after you marry her. Its isolating. Its financially devastating, as you split your assets, retirement, home equity, and sort out child support and alimony. Lawyer fees for even an amicable divorce through mediation can easily reach $5k each. And then what is your prize?  A woman who sleeps with married men that you will never trust.

Cut off 100% of all contact, cold Turkey. Tell your wife about your feelings.  Read "not just friends" and also "his needs, her needs" and reconnect with your wife.  It's possible to do, and you will not regret it.[/quote]

This.

What you are feeling is very normal. 
I am a women ,late 30s years old, married to a high earner, handsome, great shape  early 40 man.
I feel like “ falling in love” with someone all the time. I am in great shape and very charming , great career, making decent money, so a lot of men flirt with me, all the time. But there is nothing special about this feeling. It comes and goes. 
 I never let anything more happen beyond professional interaction. 
You need to shut it down for your own sake. Cut it off. 
Fantasy is fantasy. 
Real life is someone who loves you and vice versa, always there for you through thick and thin. 
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