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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone here with a gay daughter who WASN'T a tomboy, and was in fact rather feminine and had crushes on boys as a kid? [/quote]

We were completely surprised when our DD said she was gay (at age 16).  She had always really liked boys, had crushes and even had a couple of boyfriends.  Always girly, wore lots of make up and dressed nicely.  She went from having lots of friends to isolating herself and then came out to us.  She has been in two relationships with girls her age.  She is now 18 and her style has changed into very plain- basic t-shirts and shorts, little to no make up, hair in a low ponytail.  It's been hard to see the changes- not because she's gay, but because she doesn't seem happy.  She sees a therapist and recently started taking medication for anxiety.  We are hoping that going to a liberal college this fall will be a good experience for her.  [/quote]

I hesitate to post this... but I knew this person. Like, this exact person, in HS. Turned out she was being molested by a close male father-type figure (not her actual father). I just want to put that polity on your raar because the story is SO similar. Went to Wellesley (over Harvard) where she slowly got more comfortable in her own skin and around boys:men (perhaps because they weren’t around/she could avoid them if she wanted). Told her parents what happened around age 22. Drifted away from Lesbianism and is now (many years later) married to a man and has 2 kids. Still quasi-identifies as bi, but I’m not sure if that’s sort of a cultural relic at this point (most of her friends are gay/bi) or something more.[/quote]

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